michael dresser

Wheel Of Consent

A certified member of the School of Consent, offering approved training developed by Dr Betty Martin, the creator of the Wheel Of Consent®

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With a background in coaching, I create safe, gentle, and engaging environments. Choice and the needs of the individual are at the centre of each learning experience I facilitate, whether in a group, a partnership, or with an individual.

Developed through more than 15 years of practical application, the Wheel Of Consent® is a simple, powerful, navigational tool, which brings choice and clarity to your interactions with others.

The Wheel Of Consent enables you to:

understand

what you feel

communicate

what you want

do

what you enjoy

True consent is not simply about one person saying yes. Consent is the agreement between two or more people about what will or won’t happen.
And – just as importantly – the understanding of who it is for

Connect with me:

Based near the Scottish Highlands, I offer workshops throughout the UK, and one-to-one coaching in Scotland and London.

e: info@michaeldresser.co.uk

t: +44 (0) 7941 418 222

Scroll down to read more about the basics of the Wheel Of Consent below, or explore the menu above for more in depth information.

An Introduction to the Wheel Of Consent®

17 February 2019 – Findhorn, Scotland. A ‘hands-on’ 1-day introductory workshop, exploring the essentials of the Wheel Of Consent®

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Wheel Of Consent® Weekend – Aberdeen

27-28 April, Aberdeen – Learn a simple, powerful navigational tool to bring choice and clarity to your relationships; Empower yourself to trust and value your own needs; Create the foundations for satisfying connection to your authentic self, and to another.

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Gifted?

What do Kylie and a nutmeg grater (and Christmas) have to do with the Accepting quadrant?

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Stop Doing, Start Choosing

When touch is on offer we tend to think of the touch itself as the thing to focus on. But the process happening behind the scenes is not actually about the touch at all.

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Imagine this scenario:

Someone comes towards you, arms outstretched, saying “do you want a hug?”

Ask yourself: who is this hug for? Have they decided for you that you need a hug? Or is it that they actually want a hug themselves?

We all encounter situations like this every day, and often we feel pressured into an exchange we don’t really want. The Wheel Of Consent can help you change this.

How do you navigate?

In any interaction – from the boardroom to the bedroom – it’s possible to experience giving and receiving in four very different ways. The Wheel Of Consent helps take these apart and get clear about what you really want from the exchange.

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Take

Does ‘Taking’ feel like it's become a bit of a dirty word?

Taking often brings to mind invasive or aggressive behaviour. Getting something by whatever means necessary – which usually also means without consent.

Just think of that person who steals a hug from you without checking first whether you’re up for it.


But if you get agreement from the other person first, Taking can be a very healthy thing - identifying, and looking after your own needs, and nourishing yourself by listening to and responding to your desires.

Allow

How often do you go along with something you don’t want?

We live in a world that forces us to endure lots of things without our full consent – hugs, adverts, behaviour from those around us which doesn’t take into account our own needs.

Most of us have got so used to putting up and shutting up that we no longer know what our limits really are – which doesn’t feel safe.


But when you know that you have a genuine choice about what you allow then Allowing becomes a gift you can give freely: access to you, on your own terms.

Serve

Ever done something in order to get something in return?

Although we tend to think of Serving as ‘doing’ something ‘for’ someone else, if you’ve ever answered yes you’ll know we often do things for ourselves as much as for them!

And if the other person doesn’t want what you’re offering then you may feel rejected by them, or they may feel obligated.


So when we can learn to identify what we truly want for ourselves first, it then becomes possible to choose to set it aside for the benefit of another person – and genuinely start Serving.

Accept

Do you know what you want? (what you really, really want)

If you were offered whatever you wanted right now would you be able to identify the most amazing thing you could ask for? Or would you find it easier to settle for something ‘safe’, something simply ‘OK’?

It often feels awkward to accept a gift without any need to give something return. It can feel like we’re being selfish.


Yet learning to receive a truly no-strings gift can be immensely healing, and is probably one of the best ways to achieve a feeling of self-worth and self-acceptance.