An Introduction to the Wheel Of Consent
Do you know what you want?
(what you really, really want)
- Do you allow too much? Do you find it difficult to say ‘no’?
- Can you take what you need for yourself? Or do you give away your power to others?
- Does your service come with strings attached? Are you always trying to please?
- How easy to you find it to accept a gift? Especially if nothing is expected in return.
If you recognize yourself in any of these ways of being, then this workshop is for you!
The Wheel of Consent is a simple, powerful navigational tool which allows you to bring choice and clarity to your interactions. Practice creating clear agreements so you can experience satisfying connection to self and others.
This is a ‘hands-on’ 1-day introductory workshop, exploring the basics of the Wheel Of Consent, with an invitation to learn through safe, clothed, touch on your own terms – including the choice not to touch. The focus is not on the touch itself. Instead it’s a powerful inquiry into knowing what it is you want and how to communicate it.
What’s it about?
- Waking up sensation – feeling and following what is enjoyable for you
- Making choices – learning how to choose for yourself
- Exploring who each interaction is for – because ‘doing’ does not always mean ‘giving’
- Improving skills of empowerment and communication – noticing, valuing, and trusting desires, having the courage to ask for what you want, and feeling safe enough to receive it
- Understanding why we don’t always ask for what we want – and what we do instead to get our needs met.
The Wheel of Consent gives you an experience of four ways to touch or relate to another person, within clear agreements:
- Taking for your own pleasure – you do what you want, while respecting the other’s boundaries;
- Allowing another to take from you – they do what they want with your permission, and maintaining your boundaries;
- Serving another for their pleasure – you do what they want, within your own boundaries;
- Accepting the gift of another’s service – they do what you want, while maintaining their own boundaries.
What will happen?
When you touch another person, is it for you, or for them? Can you tell? Does it matter?
Understanding and embodying the Wheel of Consent happens best through a somatic experience – you have to feel it. Therefore, this workshop invites you to learn through touch-based exercises.
- You’ll learn the framework of the Wheel of Consent and experience its four Quadrants as a foundation for connection
- You’ll learn how to experience sensation, and enjoyment, in your own skin in a way that you can access any time you choose
- You’ll start to become aware of your desires and limits and how to communicate them
There are opportunities for exchanging touch as part of the learning, but it is never required. You are welcome to watch the entire time if you like, and this experience can be just as valuable. The workshop is fully clothed and it will always be your choice if, where, and how you touch or are touched.
Who is this for?
This workshop is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – personal or professional, with partners, lovers, friends, parents, children or colleagues. No prior experience necessary. Whether you’ve worked with the Wheel before or whether you haven’t, there are always new levels of awareness to be found.
Many people have found this workshop and the Wheel of Consent to be life-changing. The Wheel allows you to bring clarity, ease, freedom, gratitude and generosity into all your interactions.
All shades on the gender and sexuality spectrums are welcome. The workshop is open to singles and couples, although you will be invited to work with different members of the group at different times.
Please arrive in time to start the session at 10.00. You should wear, or bring, loose, comfortable clothing, in which you can move freely. Please avoid wearing clothing which is very revealing, or using strong scents. You are also welcome to bring any additional items which help you to feel comfortable and safe. Blankets and cushions will be available.
When: Sun 21 October 2018 – 10.00 – 18.00
Where: Savitri, The Park, Findhorn, Scotland
Cost: This workshop is offered in Gift Economy – give what you can. (Booking is essential as places are limited)
Booking: email@example.com or 07941418222
Participants from the recent Newbold House workshop said:
“The Wheel Of Consent opened my eyes about myself, and knowing what and how I want things for myself and others”
“Highly recommended – deep, safe, loving, beautifully held”
The Wheel Of Consent is based around 4 quadrants: Take, Allow, Serve, and Accept. Each creates a different experience of interaction with others and teaches you something different about yourself.
Learn more about the quadrants and the wheel: