Navigating Relationships

A powerful practice for couples. 6 essential sessions to help you start navigating your relationship in a conscious, healthy way.

Work with me as a couple or as a pair:

How good is the communication in your relationship?

In your relationship do you know how to tell your partner exactly what you want? One of the biggest challenges most couples face is clear communication.

Especially when it comes to touch and intimacy many of us feel awkward or unskilled in telling our partner what’s not working, and what we want instead.

But finding ways to meet your own needs doesn’t have to come at the expense of your partner’s needs.

Move beyond your patterns

It’s easy to get stuck in patterns in all relationships - with partners, lovers, friends, family, or even colleagues.

The Wheel Of Consent offers a simple, but powerful model - a set of tools, and a practice - to move beyond the assumptions and habits that contribute to creating patterns. It helps you become more clear and sure in your relating. Many couples have described it as ‘life-changing’.

The benefits for couples

For couples, working with this process brings deep insights into the dynamics of your relationship. Helping you to open up new ways of creating mutually satisfying interactions - both with and without touch.

The sessions invite partner touch as a learning container, but you get to choose, as an individual, at all times how you do - or don’t - want to touch, or be touched.

Couples who work with me learn and practice 4 different ways of experiencing an interaction. And the strengths, pitfalls, and responsibilities that come with each:

  1. Taking  - learn to take action for your own benefit while respecting the limits of your partner
  2. Allowing - get good at giving the gift of access to you while maintaining your own limits and boundaries
  3. Serving - understand how to do something for your partner while looking after your own needs and limits
  4. Accepting - enjoy receiving something entirely for you without any need to reciprocate.

The power of mutual agreements

Working with me empowers you to create interactions based on mutual agreements in all aspects of your relationship - no matter what the specifics of each situation are.

This is a powerful approach. Instead of one person getting their way, and the other feeling sidelined, you can start to communicate and negotiate your way to interactions which both of you agree on.

If you learn these skills you'll improve the quality of your relationships. It’s that simple!

"The 6 individual sessions allowed me to gain a deeper, clearer, cleaner yes and no and a clearer understanding of the energetics of human interactions. This is a tool for life and I am so grateful"

Kristie, Scotland

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Essential skills you’ll learn:

Improve your essential skills in noticing your needs and making choices about them:

  • Build more awareness of your wants and desires - and what you do to get them met
  • Get greater understanding and clarity in each interaction about who it’s for, and who is doing - because those two things aren’t always the same!
  • Get better at creating agreements about what will or won’t happen - so it's easier to communicate when something no longer feels OK
  • Learn to become responsible for your own choices and limits

 

Is it for you?

These skills are ideal for couples, and partners, who want to find a deeper, more connected way of relating.

Learning and practicing together, in a safe, guided container, helps rewire the DNA of your relationship, bringing more flow and flexibility when you encounter problems in your interactions - from the budget to the bedroom.